Counseling Suited To Your Lifestyle

Are you as fulfilled by your relationships as you deserve to be? The quality of your relationships influences your mental health and your mental health affects your relationships. Healthy relationships require skill and careful maintenance, without which even innocuous issues can fester into serious conflicts, including resentment, criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and distrust. By examining your life and relationships with a counselor you can start making better decisions to direct your future, avoid potential problems, and increase your capacity for success and happiness.

I specialize in online video counseling with hetero and LGBTQ+ individuals, couples, and alternative relationships. Online counseling allows me to be accessible whenever and wherever it’s convenient for you, and you can continue to see me wherever your life takes you.I work predominately with clinicians, lawyers, police, creatives, techies, and other professionals, as well as expats around the world.

My style is trauma-informed and solutions-focused, so my role is to nonjudgementally help you assess your personal and professional functioning, clarify goals, identify challenges, and strengthen the skills you need to determine your own life path. The methodologies I use include cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), dialectical-behavior therapy (DBT), and emotion-focused therapy (EFT).


Individual and Relationship Counseling

Relationship counseling can be done with individuals, couples, or both. People seek counseling for various reasons, from resolving problems to improving their relationships. My role is to nonjudgementally help you reach your goals while avoiding harm through effective research-based strategies. Issues I help my clients with include:

  • Relationship types: monogamy, polyamory
  • Sexuality: hetero and LGBTQ+
  • Learning skills for developing successful relationships
  • Resolving relationship issues:
    • Communication
    • Conflict resolution
    • Intimacy and sex
    • Alternative sexual expressions
    • Relationship milestones (engagement, marriage, children)
    • Rekindling passions
    • Family dynamics
    • Influence of personal histories
    • Finding the right partner
    • Feelings of loneliness
    • Trust
    • Infidelity
  • The effects of mental health on individual and relationship functioning:
    • Anxiety
    • Depression
    • Adjustment disorder
    • Trauma
    • Narcissistic personality disorder
    • Asperger’s / spectrum disorder


An estimated 50% of expatriates experience mental health issues—a rate 2.5 times higher than American and Canadian nationals at home. Factors contributing to the mental health issues for expatriates are separation from one’s home culture and feelings of isolation.

Issues that expatriates commonly struggle with include:

  • Isolation or loneliness
  • Depression
  • Work-related anxiety
  • Stress
  • Worry
  • Indecision
  • Returning Home

Counseling with a psychotherapist from your home culture can help mitigate these factors because of a shared cultural understanding.

Features of Online Counseling


Access counseling over video, phone, email, or text from the comfort of your own home or office. Scheduling is flexible and you can make appointments online.


Your health is your business. Counseling sessions are encrypted and secure. Your information is kept confidential and is not shared without your permission.


Keep the same counselor wherever you go. Avoid having to restart treatment with a counselor if you move.


Scientific, solutions-focused interventions that reduce your symptoms and improve your functioning. Treatments updated with scientific advancements.

No Risk Trial

Free initial consultation to determine whether online counseling is right for you.

Easy Payment

Accepting credit cards and cryptocurrencies (including bitcoin, litecoin, dogecoin, and ethereum).


Contact Philip Kolba for a Free Consultation

You can reach out to me in whatever way is most convenient to you. The confidential form is the most secure means of communication, but you can also contact me by phone or email.

I offer free 30 minute phone or video consultations to determine whether I may be the right counselor for you.

My standard rates are $150 per hour but I offer discounts if you book 10 or more sessions at a time. I am also willing to discuss a sliding scale for those experiencing financial hardships.

If online counseling is right for you but you do not feel that I would be the best fit, I have a network of other counselors in the Portland, OR area that I may connect you with. They offer the same rates and provide the same attention to your privacy, schedule, and wellbeing via online counseling. Please reach out any time to inquire about how I may support your mental health.